When you’re caring for a loved one with dementia, life can feel different, but that doesn’t mean you can’t continue to share special moments. Traditions either big or small can be incredibly meaningful, even if they need to be adapted. They offer comfort, routine, and a way to stay connected, even when words or memories might start to fade.
- Keep it Familiar but Simple
One thing I’ve learned is that simplicity matters. If there’s a tradition you used to share, like decorating cookies for the holidays or watching a favorite movie together, keep doing it, but adjust as needed. Maybe you use pre-made dough or a favorite short film instead. The goal isn’t to hold onto perfection, it’s about maintaining a familiar experience that brings joy.
- Use the Power of Senses
One of the most powerful ways to connect is through the senses. For my loved one, music has been a huge source of comfort. We’ve created a tradition of having a “music hour” every week. I play their favorite songs, and sometimes we’ll just sit quietly and listen, or if they’re up for it, we’ll dance a little. Music often triggers emotions and memories, and it doesn’t need verbal communication, which is a huge plus.
Other sensory activities can also work well. We started a new tradition of taking slow walks through the garden, focusing on the smells of flowers or the sound of birds. Even if communication gets harder, these sensory experiences can still offer connection and peace.
- Share Memories
Sometimes, sitting down with old family albums can spark stories and memories. I’ve made it a tradition to bring out photo albums on Sunday afternoons. We don’t need to have a detailed conversation, sometimes just looking through the pictures and sharing a few words is enough. You’d be surprised how much this can create a sense of closeness, even when the details might be blurry for them.
- Celebrate the Little Things
Not every tradition needs to revolve around a big holiday or event. Some of the most cherished moments come from the everyday. For instance, we started a daily tea time in the afternoons. It’s a quiet moment in the day when we can sit together, have a cup of tea, and just be. Establishing these small routines can provide a sense of normalcy, something that feels familiar and comforting for both of you.
- Get Outside When You Can
If your loved one is able, spending time outside can be a simple but beautiful tradition. Whether it’s a weekly stroll around the neighborhood or sitting on a park bench, nature can be incredibly soothing. We’ve made it a seasonal tradition to go on short walks and observe the changing colors of the leaves in fall or the first blooms of spring. These little rituals help us stay in the moment and appreciate the beauty around us.
- Create New Rituals
As our loved ones change, so can the traditions. It’s okay to let go of some old habits and create new ones. For us, we’ve started a “story hour” where I read aloud. I choose short stories or even their favorite poems from the past. Reading out loud provides a sense of calm, and it’s become a special part of our day.
- Holiday Traditions with a Twist
Holidays can be tricky, but you don’t have to give them up. Instead, simplify. Instead of large gatherings, maybe it’s a cozy dinner at home. We’ve downsized our holiday decorating tradition to just a few key items that bring the most joy, like hanging a wreath or setting out a favorite ornament. These little things still bring a sense of the season without overwhelming them.
- Enjoy the Moments That Matter
Most importantly, remember that traditions don’t have to be elaborate. It’s not about making something picture-perfect, it’s about spending time together and enjoying the little moments. One thing I’ve realized is that some of the best traditions are born out of the simplest acts of love and care, like holding hands during a favorite TV show or sharing a warm cup of soup on a chilly day.
Be Flexible and Present
There will be days when things don’t go as planned, and that’s okay. Flexibility is key. Some traditions might not work every time, but that’s part of the journey. The most important tradition you can create is being there, showing up, and embracing the time you have together.
Creating new traditions or adapting old ones with a loved one who has dementia isn’t just about preserving the past, it’s about finding ways to make the present meaningful. It’s these shared experiences, big or small, that truly matter. So don’t worry about getting everything right. Just being there and creating moments of connection is the greatest tradition of all.
Contact Divine Favour Healthcare Staffing Inc. today to learn more about how we can support you and your loved one in building meaningful, memorable traditions. Our compassionate senior companionship services are designed to help seniors, including those with dementia, lead fulfilling and joyful lives. Whether it’s through daily routines, sensory activities, or simply being present, we’re here to enhance the quality of life for your family.
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